ALLEN WAGNER

Marriage and Family Therapist - Los Angeles:

As adults many of us come to realize that once the responsibilities and expectations from work, life and family have been fulfilled, we have little time to give to improving our relationships and ourselves. The balancing act that many of us must do is often patch worked together and lacks a cohesive plan that utilizes our resources appropriately.

​

The result may be a bumpy way to go through life, the lack of effective tools leading to frequent bumps on the road, setbacks and a growing sense of dissatisfaction. This can happen when our career, our marriage and other key relationships in our lives don't play out the way we expected. Without proper resolution, disappointment and frustration grow, developing into resentment and anger towards the people in our life and ourselves. Left unchecked over time these feelings can easily snowball to depression and anxiety.

​

Therapy can be the place to look at the things that are not working and build on the things that are working. It creates a real opportunity to look at the choices, decisions and behaviors that impact you and your relationships and led you to this point. Therapy helps you consider all of this, come up with a game plan and develop the right approach to making the changes you would like to see within yourself and your relationships.

​

Whether communication and intimacy issues are ever present and affect you as a couple or individual emotional struggles lead to repetitive patterns that sabotage and damage in day to day interactions, a realization must be made that it does not have to be this way. While habits are tough to break, it is definitely possible to change ourselves, our thinking and thus change the relationships around us.

​

In therapy, couples and individuals gain new perspectives and learn more effective ways of correcting the interactions and patterns that lead to us to frustration, hurt, and misunderstandings. Through changing and improving the outlook and perspective about the world around you, many sources of negative feelings are resolved and things start to change for the better.